2017-The Year of Being Selfish

2017-The Year of Being Selfish

Being selfish is typically not something one likes to hear or be called. It has an underlying tone of not caring about others or being narcissistic. But this year has changed my mindset on being selfish. 2016 has been a hell of a year, not just for me, but I’m sure for all of us. Politics, social awareness, and just everyday life have made me want to stop sitting idle and make my own decisions. Being selfish doesn’t mean you have to stop caring for others, but rather put more focus on your life and your priorities. Now that I’m a post-grad, an adult (an adultier-adult!), and almost 23, it’s time for me to do things for my personal growth, and not just because someone else obliges me to do so.

Travelling Has Become More Important Than Ever Before


Hindu Temple of Florida

Remember when ISIS and war destroyed more than 20 cultural sites? Several of these beautiful treasures were constructed thousands of years ago, only to be destroyed, intentionally in 3-5 seconds. These past years visualizing war and the destruction it makes encourages me to work harder to visit these monuments that humans have created centuries ago. It could happen to any historical site at anytime. But the inspiring aspect is that we live in a time where we can travel freely and independently. In 2017 I will make the commitment to see more of these sites and indulge in what humanity has gifted us, before they are gone.  You never know when these monuments will be forever lost.

Dive into Minimalism, Reduce Your Imprint


Four of SEVERAL sweaters I own. Brand New -Never Worn

While I was packing for my move to Dallas, I became frustrated with all of the things I’ve accumulated within the last couple of months! I only had one bedroom to pack and I thought ‘cool, this should be a breeze..’ and it turned into an extreme headache.  Brand new clothes I haven’t worn, cute notebooks that are unfilled, and the cute, cheap items that you “oh, I might need  this later”. I became so frustrated that I donated several items to GoodWill without much thought. After dropping the garbage bags off, I felt an immense weight off my shoulders. And it felt great. So next year, I will try to shop less, spend money on good quality items, ditch the ‘I might need this later’ mindset, and appreciate the things I already have!

Say ‘Yes’ To More Experiences


Who doesn’t love a Lazy Sunday?

I have terrible social anxiety. I’m usually more than happy to spend evenings and weekends at home. But in a way, I feel like I’m missing out on so many experiences. You know how you always hear the phrases, ‘ you only live once’ and ‘enjoy your 20s’? These quotes have now been imprinted in my brain. I do want to get out and explore, especially since I’m now in a bigger city. So call me the Yes Girl, I’m taking on more in 2017!

Make Mistakes – It’s Okay


Journal your mistakes. Draw a picture. You will be surprised at how much you’ve grown since then!

I tend to be one of those people who always over-analyze situations or go COMPLETELY out of my way to please people (like miss your bus to help someone find their way). In 2017, I pledge to make mistakes, and be okay with it. I’m human. You’re human. Mistakes are how we progress into better people. And you never know, a mistake could be a blessing in disguise! (NOT talking about getting pregnant, mom).

I challenge you to also be selfish in 2017. I think it’s time all of us begin to think about ourselves and upgrade to a new and improved self.  Care for YOU before you care of others. Educate yourself and make mistakes! We will only have one 2017 and lets make it the best damn year of our lives!





  1. Elise Barrows
    January 3, 2017 / 8:14 am

    Great post! Instead of #treatyourself , this is the year of #loveyourself . Get it girl✌?

    • shay
      January 3, 2017 / 6:19 pm

      haha RIGHT! #loveyourself 🙂

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